Your Best Second Half

YOUR BEST SECOND HALF is a practical actionable and enjoyable book, written for men to live more of the life they want.

In a few steps you will have a motivating life plan, increased self-confidence, and the discipline to make it happen. Other books give you endless pages of impenetrable theory. This is something different. This is self-help designed for men. Proven coaching tools, 6 practical steps and an encouraging enjoyable style.

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REVIEWS

‘Insightful, practical, actionable’

I’m not really a self-help person but this book was a pleasant surprise. First of all, it addressed real issues facing men my age (I’m about to turn 50) in a straight up way, without being patronizing or over the top. Second of all it is an entertaining read — more like an easy conversation than going back to school… and finally it is really practical. It’s not about turning your life upside down with some radical change that will never last, but realistic small things you can start doing today to make your life better — and they actually work. If you’re in this stage of life (or know someone who is), I’d highly recommend.

‘A wonderful and helpful short book that will last a lifetime!’

Written in an engaging, punchy style. A short book that is ‘All Killer and no Filler!’ Helpful questions to reflect on and to come back to every few years. Sound practical advice that can be used in the moment. And overall, with a pervading sense of optimism. Highly recommended!

Is this it?

Is a difficult philosophical question – and if you want to solve it rather than just worry about it then buy this book.

A practical guide to improving your relationships with those that matter to you and working out what to do with the time and healthy years you always promised yourself when you were younger and working too hard.

Indeed – you should probably read this when you are thirty and save wasting 20 years to read it in your 50s!

‘Life is too short to waste!’

I really enjoyed Your Best Second Half. It is very different to your standard ‘How to improve your life manual’. The author openly and honestly shares many personal touches and experiences, which brings the book an added degree of realism to the reader. You are left with the feeling, that if you can make a few small achievable changes to your life, you can have a major positive impact on not just yourself but all your relationships. I particularly liked the concept of ‘The most important letter’. Finally, I have two teenage boys, and I think they would benefit from reading the book as it would help to them to also make the most of the first half of their lives, as many of the issues raised apply at all ages.

‘Not just for men’

I was attracted by the promise of Your Best Second Half – sounded like the ideal stocking filler for my ultra pragmatic husband who I think is struggling to re-invent himself post redundancy. What I hadn’t expected though was how much the exercises and ideas would resonate with me too and I’m not a man! I’m looking forward to hearing my husband’s reactions and maybe both of us doing a bit of re-invention.

Lastly, I’d say to anyone, don’t wait too late to pick Your Best Second Half book up – yes, it is designed for someone who has lived a little and has some maturity, but it will help you get through any major transition phase in your life and come out the other side feeling more positive and purposeful.

‘Is this it? Absolutely not!’

This guide fills a big gap for men in need of a life lift. Peter has included some lovely personal touches and has written it in an ask not tell way. A brilliant alternative (or addition) 😉 to the midlife motorbike and promises just as much adventure.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Peter Soer has built his career over 35 years of marketing and executive coaching, developing a deep curiosity in human behaviour, helping many bring about real change in their lives. He is a second half man himself, facing his own challenges and seeing many of his friends, family and clients going through the same uncertainty. With YOUR BEST SECOND HALF he has condensed his many years of learning into a quick and easy guide for mid-life men looking for a new start.

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(1.1) Why do you need Your Best Second Half?

Because too many men enter life’s second half, wake up one day and ask this question…

“Is this it?!”

Or something similar, and have nowhere useful to go to work out the answer.

The cards are stacked against you because many of the unwritten rules for men are obstacles preventing you from finding answers:

be strong
people don’t change
suck it up, stop whinging and get on with it

And weirdly, none of your friends seems to need to talk, so you are left thinking it must just be me overthinking stuff. So, instead of finding a way to think things through, you go for a pint or a run or walk the dog or do something useful instead.

The result is that for your remaining decades, you accept a life that is okay rather than the best it can be, wasting some of your life’s second-half opportunity.

Then one day, twenty or thirty years later, you awake to a new question.

‘Was that what I wanted?’

But by that point, it is too late to do much about it. The opportunity you had to have the best possible second half has gone.

It doesn’t have to be like that. With a few actionable tools, you can have more of the life you want.

That is where Your Best Second Half comes in. If you are curious whether the rest of your life can hold greater possibilities and more potential and how you can make it happen, then this is for you.

You don’t have to face a crisis for this guide to be for you. This guide is useful if you would simply like your years ahead to be the best they can be.

(1.2) What is this book and how to use it?

This book is a simple, actionable guide to help you do more than just get through life’s second half. To help you realise that, far from having to just keep going, you have great potential, combining experience of the past with energy for the future.

Only you own the pen that writes the story of your life.

The core tools I will use are questions and exercises which ask you to think, write, and reflect. The questions are specifically designed to enable people to see with fresh eyes, to generate new understanding, and to unlock their potential as valuable human beings.

Get a pen and some paper, or a notebook, or your favourite device to type with. You will be thinking and writing/ typing your thoughts. The guide helps you to do the thinking in bite-size steps, with each step building on the last, so that by the end, you will have new insight, clear choices and actionable plans to get what you want out of life’s second half.

Many books feel like they are three ideas stretched into three hundred pages. My aim with this guide is the opposite—it is short and power-packed. Don’t rush. Give yourself time between exercises to let your unconscious explore and build on the thoughts you had. You will likely want to come back to your work and add thoughts and ideas to it.

(1.3) What happens if you read on?

This guide is structured like a conversation. I hope you will find it easy and enjoyable to read.

You will find insights that you can action, torch lights that switch on and help you see a new way ahead, generating optimistic energy that you can harness. The guide provides language and questions you can use with your family and friends to open up new discussions that will help you and help them.

We are all different, and so you and the guy sitting next to you will each find the most value in different parts of this book. For sure, there is something in here that will work for you… a life 10% better, a relationship improved, an opportunity uncovered. With each step forward, you gain momentum, and it becomes clear that you do not have to accept that this is it.

So, mindful of two of my favourite quotes:

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

HENRY FORD

“Unless you believe the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and

take responsibility for making it so.”

NOAM CHOMSKY

Come along, let’s have some fun.